Honestly, none of us expected this to come out of our 2020. But, unfortunately, sometimes a pandemic sweeps across the world and starts disrupting all plans- including weddings.
Okay, so this is not a "sometimes" thing. But, the CDC has come out to discourage large gatherings of 50 or more. And honestly, none of us really knows what's going to happen in the coming months. So, let's talk about how to keep your wedding going, and safely.
No matter how you spin this, it's hard to reconstruct your wedding after months of planning. And my heart goes out to all the couples who are being affected by this.
What's been pretty cool through all of this is that the Memphis Wedding Pro community is stepping up behind the scenes to help you get your wedding dreams back.
So, talk after talk, I've got a couple of ideas to help you reroute and figure out your wedding plans.
"Should I cancel my wedding?"
Most of your vendors are going to recommend you don't "cancel" your wedding. We suggest "rescheduling." This is usually the easiest thing to do. By rescheduling your wedding you have the chances of keeping the all the plans you've already made, but just at a different date.
This is definitely your best option if your wedding is coming up in the next 8 weeks. For myself, if I have a date available for my clients then I can transfer their funds to that new date instead of having to have them rebook everything.
What you need to do: If you haven't yet, start calling and emailing your vendors about their rescheduling policies. Pro Tip: this policy should be in your contract. The Knot has come out with an EXCELLENT article about how to reschedule your wedding. It covers everything from wedding insurance to coping emotionally with the change.
"Will my summer/fall wedding be effected?"
We currently don't know what's going to happen for major events that take place during the next six months. Personally, I am hopeful that things will clean up by then. But the best advice I'm seeing is to go ahead and talk to your vendors about alternative plans. The silver lining in this is that you'll have more time to finalize your plans.
The Warmth Around You made a great blog about how to consider your guests during a pandemic.
Here's a few things they suggested:
Reduce your guest list to a more intimate number. I recommend seeing if your videographers can stream any of your wedding for the immune compromised that might not be able to attend. The alternative is to see if your vendors are okay with someone streaming your event on Facebook live for a little bit.
See if you can shift your ceremony/reception to an outdoor space or very open area.
Check that your venue has plenty of cleaning products at hand including hand soap.
Talk with your coordinator or venue coordinator about spacing out the floor plan
Change the food service from buffett. And, you guessed it, talk with your caterer
Lastly, I'd suggest jumping on the alternative wedding scene and eloping locally and hosting your reception later.
Now, I know if you already had everything booked this isn't quite ideal. But, if you're really wanting to get married, then make your ceremony intimate with only you, your videographer, photographer and an officiant. So, talk with your vendors and see if they're able to postpone the reception so you can still celebrate with your friends and family when everyone is nice and healthy.
Just remember, the CDC is suggesting to restrict travel as much as possible right now, and I'd assume these policies are going to become more strict. So keep yourself in your local area. There's plenty of beautiful places in Memphis that you can do this without worry.
If you haven't yet, make sure you talk with your vendors about alternative plans. We are all in this business because we cherish these important milestones in your life. Your vendors are going to want to take care of you and figure out the best
solution for you.
Be a little graceous. This is a stressful time for everyone. And it's likely your vendors are handling several postponed events that are severely affecting their business. If you trust your vendor's they're going to do everything they can to help you.
Feel free to reach out if you're struggling with your wedding planning. Especially you're one of my current clients and dealing with some anxiety about your wedding during the pandemic. We're all here for you. The best thing we can do is be a little extra kind towards each other in these time. <3